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bastianhasablog:

octopusboi:

ashtontaylorr:

octopusboi:

bastianhasablog:

unicornkid:

that’s not a secret. that’s just a hurtful thing to tell any transguy, and the fact that you had to post it to queersecrets shows how much you know its a wrong thing to say. we already go through dysphoria and feel like everyone, everything is against our manhood. why do people try to make us feel worse? 

(via queersecrets)

take this shit down queersecrets.

I don’t know how to feel about this.  On the one hand I’m pissed that someone is insulting a transguy.

But on the other hand, from the wording of the secret, it seems like maybe this transguy abused someone.  It says right there, “this has nothing to do with your female body.”

It doesn’t matter whether you are cis or trans; abuse is just unacceptable.  I’ve heard cisguys being told they are “not real men” for abusing women.  

But I don’t even know if that’s true.  I’m just confused by this secret.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with this secret. The person who posted it obviously did NOT mean to tell him that he wasn’t a real man because he is trans. The person said that he wasn’t a real man because of the way that he acts. Transmen can be assholes just like cismen.

This is exactly what I was thinking.  I just couldn’t put it into words.

HERE IS THE THING.

this is something that transmen are accutely sensitive to - the issue of being a “real man.” I think it is incredibly offensive and just cruel to EVER say “you are not a real man” in this blanket way. If it is to a specific person who really wronged you, then that’s yr issue with him. Putting it in this public arena with no specific target is absolutely unacceptable. Talk about being triggering.

Also the person obviously wanted it to be triggering. That’s why “you are not a real man” is so fucking big and stands out and you can hardly read the text at the bottom, which also references his “female body.”

This was meant to hurt and sting and used transmen’s insecurities about their masculinity. And was posted publicly with a generic audience. So no this is not okay on any front.

This should not have been posted and I am unfollowing queer secrets until they start censoring blatant transphobic and cruel “secrets”.

I completely agree with Bastian here. I’m not going to lie, this was a really triggering secret. I actually felt a little sick with nerves after reading it. Usually I’m really good about shrugging stuff like this off - it’s why generally I like Queersecrets. But this one .. no. Just no. You can really tell that the person who posted it KNOWS how wrong it is to say that to a transguy - especially given the way the picture was presented. It’s really blatant. And it comes across as a message to all trans folk - I realize it was aimed at one particular person, but due to the method of delivery it actually comes across as a generalization to all transmen.

I guess I still stand by my earlier statement that sometimes trans/bi/poly/pan-phobic secrets are okay to post because it brings certain issues out into the limelight to be discussed. (Without a discussion, these things become internalized and deeply rooted and people. It’s like exercising a demon, I suppose.) But maybe there is a limit after all. Perhaps that limit is a blurry line, so I understand the owner of queersecrets not being sure where to draw it. I honestly don’t think this queersecret should have been posted though, because it’s simply hateful. The OP should have kept it to themselves.